LayZ boy is really mental

There was a very interesting, but weird interaction between my brother, LayZ boy and my step-father this evening where my step-father was chastising my brother for not washing his glass after using it, expecting others to clean up after him and my brother just insisting that it is his right to make dishes dirty and not clean up after himself.

LayZ boy is just mental.

He just insists on what he wants and tells people; "you know that's what I do", like it is his divine right to be irresponsible and everyone must accept what he does and broach no argument about it irrespective of how it affects everyone else. It's his right to behave how he wants to, at the (usual) detriment of everyone else, as he considers no-one else's feelings but his own selfish ones!

My step-father was washing a few dishes (there were not many there - just a few plates and glasses, very minor) and then LayZ boy came into the kitchen to get himself his big glass that he uses for water. And this is the conversation that occurred:

Step-father: Hey, why are you taking a new glass when you should be washing out the glass you just used?
LayZ boy: You know I only use this glass. When one is dirty, I use the other one. (there are two of the glasses he likes to use)
Step-father: But you just made the other glass dirty, so why cant you just rinse it out and use it again?
LayZ boy: You know I only use this glass, it's the only glass I use. You know that.
Step-father: Yes, but you need to wash out the glass first so you can use it again, instead of making another one dirty that we have to wash.
LayZ boy: You know I only use this glass. When one is dirty, I use the other one that is clean. (said in a very mentally deluded way, like it is his right not only not to wash any dishes, but to make as many glasses dirty as possible)
Step-father: You are such a lazy bludger, you don't do anything. So lazy, you don't clean up after yourself.
LayZ boy: What are you talking about, I am just using the glass I always use and you know that.

And after that LayZ boy left the kitchen and my step-father, because I was in the vicinity, starts going off about how LayZ boy is so lazy and doesn't do anything and neither do, because I am equally lazy . Yeah, right, I don't think so - he just likes to bitch about me when he's complaining about LayZ boy and I don't know why, but he's always been that way!

LayZ boy, on the other hand is completely irresponsible and doesn't contribute an iota to washing dishes - whenever he uses any plates or cutlery, they are simply deposited on the sink for someone else to wash! And my step-father hates washing dishes - he always complains about having to do it when there are two women in the house! His attitude about women is so bad!

Step-father and mother angry and raging

The other morning my step-father and mother were having a very loud argument. This usually happens about once a week and it is because they are both stubborn and wont give in. My mother eventually gets her way because she rules this house, with an iron fist - what she says and how she says it goes here and he has to do what she wants otherwise she'll rage on him even more. Whenever he does anything contrary to what she wants, she goes off her head at him and that makes him upset and he gets angry and starts raging around the house, yelling and getting angry at me.

My mother has this insatiable need to control everyone and everything in her vicinity and if they don't obey, then she has something to say about it. Most people don't get to see this side of her, they only see the pleasant, amiable persona she decides to show them, but if she feels thwarted, they get to see this antagonistic, bullish self and they do not like it at all. There are quite a few people who give me the "you poor thing, she is your mother and eye-roll" when they realise who my mother is, because they have been subject to this side of her personality and they really don't like her, but because they don't know me, they don't say too much more than that.

Anyway, during their argument, my step-father started banging doors really loudly, started yelling really loudly and started swearing really loudly. Of course because he was upset, he didn't think about the fact that there are sick people who are still sleeping (me) and he closed the toilet door which is just off my bedroom really loudly and he had the fan on too. He doesn't really care about anyone else, as he is rather very selfish.

To top it off, my mother wont tell him to stop doing what he's doing, out of consideration for me sleeping and being sick needing the sleep, she'll upset and antagonise him more, telling him he's a no-good-for-nothing, lazy, layabout and she doesn't know why she married him and more words like that. He on the other hand starts telling her how lazy and good-for-nothing her children are and then she goes one to tell him that he knew she had children when he met her (we were young when they met, about 9 and 11 years old) and that if he didn't want to be here to just leave because she certainly doesn't need him in her life.

Needless to say, these arguments are not very nice and many times I have tried to stop them arguing by being impartial (not taking anyone's side), trying to get them to see each other's side and trying to get them to see reason. Usually it has worked as I know how to use the right words to diffuse the situation, but these days, I really cant be bothered - it is not my problem to solve, I am not responsible for their marriage resolutions.

When they have these arguments and either of them sees me - my step-father, because he is angry, will just say to me: "You lazy bludger, good-for-nothing, go back to bed and sleep" and my mother will just look at me with an angry face and if I say anything to her, she will just tell me off. It's better not to even approach either of them when they are in this type of mood.

Inevitably I am always blamed for their arguments - they both tell me that I am the cause of their argument. So again, neither of them take responsibility for their relationship and want to blame me, because I am there. Even when I am not living here, they still blame me!  Geez, when will these people learn how to behave like decent, normal human beings?